Confidence in a Man

Women love their men strong and confident. They want to feel security in his loving embrace, yearning in his kisses and sincerity in their sexual encounters. Women love men who have the strength to stand up to what they believe in and admit to their mistakes.

Confidence. It all starts with the right attitude and positive thinking. You should not let insecurity and doubt cloud your outlook. You should, above all, believe in yourself. How can you exude confidence when you yourself don't believe in yourself?

Guys shouldn't think that "this girl is out of my league" or the many what-ifs. ("What if she turns me away?" "What if she already has a boyfriend?") No, that's not the way it should be. Develop your confidence and watch as your personality radiates from your words and actions. So how can you build up your confidence?

First of all, appearance matters. You don't necessarily need to be Hollywood material to score points with the ladies. You don't need to have Brad Pitt's boyish good looks, Hugh Grant's British magnetism or Arnold Schwarzenegger's bulging muscles. You should at least look neat and tidy though. Let your sweet side radiate from within; sometimes, that's enough to get the girls. It's the simple things that count. Open doors for her, hail a cab for her, those kind of things. You need not have a white steed and be her knight in shining armor.

Also, girls love bad boys (well, not the abusive and criminal types though). They think that bad boys are more mysterious and exciting. These guys appear as if they are untamed and unpredictable, not afraid of being just themselves or being too nice just to get approval. Women feel that they are a challenge and strive hard to get to know them better. They exude the confidence, individuality, and masculinity that are not found in wusses who act like spineless jellyfish or doormats.

Unlike confident men, the wusses constantly seek approval from women and act desperate and needy. They buy women's attention by giving them expensive gifts or taking them out to classy restaurants; though they might sound really enjoyable, you should already know that women need more than these.

More importantly, you don't even need to possess a 12" pecker to be confident. If you are indeed well-endowed, well then, good for you. Just don't use it as a pick-up line or use it to strike up a conversation. "I have a foot long schlong, wanna fuck?" That would earn you a nice dirty martini in the face, at the very least.

Of course, a huge member is probably a plus factor; but that doesn't mean you're more of a man than others. A real man is one who is responsible enough to get married and raise a good family, who has the strength of character to be a good leader as well as a follower, and who knows what he wants out of life and strives hard to get it.

Condoms and Penis Size

Condoms are probably the safest way to prevent the spread of STDs and also one of the most effective means of avoiding unwanted pregnancies. Around the world, condoms are promoted by NGOs striving to stop AIDS and to teach men and women about family planning and responsible sex. Not everybody agrees with the use of condoms, but they are still the cheapest and easiest way of dealing with STDs and unwanted pregnancies.

However, many men are not very comfortable with buying condoms from pharmacies because they don’t like to inform other people about their private activities. Just thinking about going into a pharmacy or drugstore and asking for condoms, possibly even a female vendor, is enough to make them queasy. They are also afraid that some people might prove judgmental and criticize their choice of using condoms or start joking about it in a malicious manner. This is why condoms are sold in Western countries through vending machines that allow buyers to preserve their privacy. Still, this convenience has triggered a new problem of its own.

Men who avoid buying condoms from pharmacies are also unable to get advice on the features of this or that brand of condoms, especially regarding the length and circumference. This is a very important issue, since buying the wrong size means that the condom will either tear or slide off the penis during sex, thus defeating the very purpose for which condoms are bought. Professional advice is very important because most men have no idea what size of condoms fits them best, while other men can’t even rely on the standard sizes. A recent study conducted in India has shown that the 60 percent of Indian men find standard size condoms too big for them.

Having a small penis is very embarrassing when buying condoms. No man wants to be seen purchasing the smallest size available because of the possible negative opinion of those who happen to be in the store at that moment, while the wide range of colors, shapes and flavors available is enough to baffle anybody. And the feeling of embarrassment is not the exclusive property of men with small penises. Men with larger than average penises are also embarrassed when it comes to identifying the exact size that fits them. Although well-endowed men tend to command the respect of others, it’s still unpleasant to be stared at.

If you are not sure what condom size fits you, then here’s a quick reference guide that will let you identify the right size on the spot. The standard condom sizes used in the Western are small, medium (also known as regular), large and extra large. These sizes translate as follows: small means a length of 6 inches or 15 centimeters and a circumference of 3.9 inches or 9.8 centimeters; medium means a length of 6.5 inches or 16 centimeters and a circumference of 4.1 inches or 10.4 centimeters; large means 7 inches or 17.5 centimeters in length and 4.1 inches or 10.4 centimeters in circumference; extra large is 7.5 to 8 inches or 18.5 to 20 centimeters in length and a circumference of 4.3 inches or 10.8 centimeters at the base and 4.7 inches or 12 centimeters around the glans.

Cleanliness and Circumcision

The subject of circumcision is similar to discussing religion or politics. Most people are likely to have strong views on the subject from an empathic position that no amount of evidence could change their positions. After hearing countless argument of family and friends about circumcised versus uncircumcised, I have found that the best that I can do is to provide information and make people aware of some of the main facts about circumcision.

Circumcision is a subject that greatly affects medical politics. In as early as 1975, about 93% of all American boys are being circumcised or had their foreskin surgically removed just after birth. From then on, there has been a movement to stop such a medically unnecessary practice. Today the figures had considerably dropped down. In 1990, only 63% of infant males were circumcised for reasons other than religious traditions.

The practice of circumcision is routinely done for hygienic and not medical reasons. Many people believe that it is more hygienic or at least it is easier to care for penis if it is circumcised. Infection or inflammation of the foreskin affects about 10% - 14% of uncircumcised boys, while inflammation of the "glans" or "balanitis" is twice as common in uncircumcised children as circumcised and greater than five folds in adults.

On the other hand, urinary tract infections occur in about 1 in 100 uncircumcised boys in the first year of life, and 1 in 1,000 in circumcised boys. There is also an increased risk of inflammation and infections of the foreskin and glans in uncircumcised males. However, it all comes down to personal opinion whether the increased risks are significant enough to warrant circumcision.

Aside from medical politics, the subject of circumcision also affects our sexuality. There are several advantages for circumcised men when it comes to sexuality. First is that circumcised male have no need to worry about daily cleansing of his foreskin. Meanwhile, men with an intact foreskin must take special care to move it up and down and clean it inside its covered areas to avoid odors or serious infection because of material buildup. Consequently, there might be some bacteria and germs that could surface thus affect their sexual health.

Second advantage is that some women prefer a man with a circumcised penis because it may move inside them in a less friction-based manner. Once he is inside the vagina, the unhooded penis may easily slide up and down to create pleasure for both partners.

Safe sex is an added concern for uncircumcised men and their partners. Men with foreskins occasionally have difficulty finding the right condom or keeping one on during penetrative sexual activity. That spells trouble in bed as well as generates unneeded anxiety. However, with a proper fit and ample lubrication, the problem can be quickly assuaged.

When it comes to sexual pleasure, there is really no better or worse case because it all comes down to a matter of personal taste. Either way, both are medically acceptable conditions and may it be with either a covered or a clipped partner, you can still enjoy the ride.

Causes and solutions to premature ejaculation

Premature Ejaculation, also known to health care experts as “ejaculatio praecox”, is probably the single most common sexual dysfunction in men. Statistics show that as much as 30 percent of men complain of premature ejaculation in most sexual encounters. Sex therapists define premature ejaculation as a lack of ejaculatory control, which interferes with sexual or emotional well being in one or both partners. While not particularly informative for the layperson, this definition shows that premature ejaculation has a strong negative impact on a man’s emotional well being, especially by making him less confident in himself.

Truth be told, most men experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lives. After all, ejaculatory control is not something men are born with; they have to learn it through practice and repetition. But a consistent occurrence of premature ejaculation is not to be taken lightly, especially in view of its effect of the male confidence and emotional well being. Knowing that a new sex session is likely to result in further humiliation is a devastating feeling for men. This serves to reinforce their low confidence, which reinforces the premature ejaculation and so on in a circle of hopelessness and depression.

Premature ejaculation has both physical and psychological roots. Recent studies have shown that more than 90 percent of men suffering from premature ejaculation had inherited their dysfunction from parents or grandparents with long-term premature ejaculation records. Doctors associate this dysfunction with a faster than normal neurological response in the pelvic muscles and recommend various exercises designed to improve ejaculatory control. On the psychological side, premature ejaculation can be caused by depression, stress, unrealistic expectations, or the reinforced lack of confidence.

It’s perfectly clear that inexperience is one of the biggest causes of premature ejaculation, followed by a weak PC muscle and a faster than normal neurological response in the pelvic muscles. Well, inexperience can only be cured with more sex, which is something we heartily recommend to everybody, while the muscles located in the pelvic area can be trained as any other muscle in the body to stop acting on their own. The PC muscle stands for the pubococcygeus muscle. This muscle acts as floor to the entire pelvic area of the body, supporting from underneath the weight of organs. It also controls orgasm and prolonged exercising helps men achieve orgasm without ejaculating.

Still, premature ejaculation can be prevented or treated by working out the PC muscle and bringing it under your control. When you have full control of this muscle, premature ejaculation is no longer a problem for you. Penis exercises, like Kegels or those featured in the Penis Health database, focus on ejaculation control at beginner, intermediate and advanced levels for people who are willing to rid themselves of this unfortunate condition once and for all. The trick is to have confidence in yourself and in your strength to make premature ejaculation a thing of the past.

Causes and History of the Disease

Peyronie’s disease is probably a very old condition, one that’s been around for centuries if not since mankind’s first days on this planet. Like erectile dysfunction and other intimate problems, the condition has not been openly discussed for a long time, as men tried to hide it from the world and from themselves. In the ages when people frowned upon intimate diseases and there was little understanding of illnesses and their causes, it’s easy to guess why nobody wanted to bring up this topic. The natural fear of impotence or sexually transmitted diseases was bad enough in those times.

The first clinical reports on this condition were made more than 250 years ago by Francois Gigot de la Peyronie, the man whose name is still linked to the condition, although the first to mention it was Cesare Aranzi in 1587. De la Peyronie was a brilliant surgeon and one of the founders of the Royal Academy of Surgery in France. His work on the penile curvature was the first and, for a long while, the only step toward the modern attempts to cure it. Unfortunately, today we are no closer to a comprehensive definition of the causes of Peyronie’s disease than Peyronie himself was in 1743.

Most doctors agree with the assumption (as yet unproven) that Peyronie’s disease is caused by microvascular trauma during intercourse. Unfortunately, since the tunica albuginea (the layer of the penis where the condition develops) is not rich in blood vessels, the healing process does not always follow the normal course. Multiple instances of intercourse trauma and poor healing lead to the formation of a plaque, which is made of fibrin, a protein that helps blood clot. This plaque prevents the normal expansion of the penis tissues during erection, thus causing the characteristic bend.

It is also believed that the diseases develops only in men who are genetically predisposed to the accumulation of fibrin within the tunica albuginea and the expansion of plaque to healthy tissue along the dorsal and ventral midline of the shaft. However, one must keep in mind that this attempt at etiology is still speculation at this moment. Unfortunately, Peyronie’s disease is considered a rare diseases and non-life-threatening, which means that only a handful of professionals are actually interested in uncovering the causes and finding a cure.

Can Diet Affect Penis Size?

Food is many things. It’s your daily supply of nutrients that keeps you going. It’s your daily pleasure if you can afford fine meals every day. And it’s also your biggest help in keeping your body healthy and fit. Without the right substances entering your body through food, you will suffer from the various diseases associated with malnutrition.

And I’m willing to bet you had no idea that food can also influence the size of your penis. Not many people are aware of the extensive influence certain things have on our bodies. For instance, the pants your wear can hinder spermatogenesis (the production of sperm by the testes) by being too tight. Everyone wants to look good, but it’s silly to sacrifice your sperm for a pair of tight jeans.

The main thing to look for in food is for those ingredients that will keep your blood flowing. The substances contained in these foods are called vasodilators and they work by relaxing the smooth muscles making up the walls of blood vessels. Examples of such food are salmon, tuna, eggs, milk, liver and vegetables like broccoli, carrots, sweet potatoes and tomatoes.

While these foods have no readily detectable influence on the size of your penis, their presence in your diet helps promote the blood flow that is the key to erection. If your circulatory system is in perfect shape and if the blood vessels are allowing more blood to pass through the penis, then your erection is bound to be bigger than usual.

Briefs Vs. Boxer Shorts

The revolution in fashion has created a lot of changes in men's underwear. Designers every now and then reinvent briefs and boxer shorts. The difference between the two is basically in the size and fit. Briefs are smaller, thus they fit perfectly to the body of men. On the other hand, boxers are buggy and cooler when used. Men's preference differs a lot in choosing the best between the two. Briefs are said to be sexy and defines the figure of men. Some use briefs because it is the traditional underwear. Others find boxer shorts very annoying especially when they use fitted pants. Boxer shorts are for the conservatives and for those who are uncomfortable with tightly fit underwear. There are more than enough reasons why some men use boxer shorts and why some men use briefs.

Recently, a lot of arguments have been created as to which between the two will be beneficial to men's fertility. According to some, tight briefs generate a lot of heat. They say that heat can cause infertility that is why a lot of brief patrons have shifted from their usual underwear. Another viable reason is that briefs prevent movement of the penis. It is said that constant exercise by the penis will help in stimulating and erecting it. In addition, the blood will flow more freely enabling the penis to serve its purpose. With the influx of arguments about the bad effects of briefs to men's fertility, there has not been any significant change of the part of men in terms of underwear preference. In fact, brief manufacturers insist that such claims are untrue as proven by some studies, which showed no significant difference in the use of briefs and boxer shorts to man fertility.

According to a study, sperm sterilization can be caused by sudden increase of temperature in the testes. So much heat will destroy some of the sperm cells until a man reaches infertility. In the experiment, men were asked to wear briefs and boxer shorts. The most important factor was the difference of the heat in the testes when using a brief or a boxer short. The results suggested that the claim on briefs causing heat is purely exaggeration. Briefs do not generate enough heat to disturb the balance in men's reproductive organs. To boot, there is no significant distinction observed in terms of the temperature of the testes after using a brief and a boxer short. Moreover, the preference to use a brief or a boxer short has no effect in the fertility of men. Therefore, the advice given to men to use boxer shorts instead of briefs is proven as scientifically and medically baseless.

The facts clearly indicate that choosing between a brief and a boxer short should not be based on fertility issues. Since, there are no significant differences, style and comfort will be the determinants in selecting the best underwear. Brief users have no reasons to panic and boxer shorts users have nothing to argue about. The only thing that should separate both is the design and nothing else.